When most people hear the term “Codependent relationship” they think of a relationship in which one person is simply more invested than the other. However, the reality is codependent relationships and addiction is much more complicated, and they play a major role in the dark world of substance abuse.
Codependency is defined as “excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.” They are dysfunctional, one sided relationships where one person is relying on another to meet all their needs.
The Florida detox center at Detox of Delray knows codependent relationships and addiction go hand in hand. Being in a relationship with an addict forces both parties to share the burden of the addiction. They cause one partner to enable the other, and can eventually turn the both members of the relationships into addicts.
How can you tell if you are in a codependent relationship?
If you find yourself expending all your energy to meet the needs of your partner, or if you find that you are the one making all the sacrifices for the relationship to work, you are in a codependent relationship. Typical behavior that accompanies a codependent relationship with an addict includes denial, dependency, obsession, dysfunctional communication, lack of boundaries, reactivity, and low self-esteem. Those in codependent relationships with addicts often:
- Make excuses for their behavior
- Apologize for their behavior
- Amend negative consequences due to their behavior
- Offer reassurance instead of resolutions
- Restricting one’s own behavior to supervise the addict
- Feel distraught at the idea of losing access to the addict
- Spend money on their partner’s addiction, and none on their own needs
Being involved in a codependent relationship with an addict can push you to become an addict, or face negative life consequences such as:
- Loss of a job
- Arrest for possession or drug related offense
- Taking part in dangerous activity such as driving while impaired
- Failing to pay bills
- Losing your home
These kinds of relationships are harmful to both parties; the addict is constantly reassured and taken care of, and will continue to abuse their substance of choice. The codependent party feels elated when the addict doesn’t use, but guilty and ashamed when they do. The addiction is locked in place by both the addict and by the codependent person. Overtime, these feelings of helplessness will lead to more negative effects on the codependent person’s emotional wellbeing.
If you or someone you know is suffering in the middle of a codependent relationship, it is important to seek proper treatment for both parties involved. The Florida detox center at Detox of Delray can help addicts to remove drugs or alcohol from their system safely and comfortably. After detox is complete, the client is moved into treatment where they participate in therapy to learn life skills and how to create healthy relationships.